Posts tagged: lgbtq

"my math teacher makes a lot of jokes about gay people and it makes me feel really uncomfortable. i want to approach the situation without drawing attention to myself though, help?"

everyoneisgay:

-Question submitted by Anonymous


Dannielle Says: 

If I were you, I’d leave an anonymous letter for your teacher. Either on your desk or go to the front office with the letter and say ‘can you get this to DOCTOR POOPS (your teacher)’ and they’ll stuff it in teacho’s mailbox. 

I’m sure you’re not the only one affected by this and I’m sure everyone else feels the exact same way you feel. BUT we’re all so scared to stand up to our teachers for some reason. Which is why I suggest an anonymous letter. ORRR you can talk to a principal SLASH dean SLASH headmaster SLASH administrator SLASH WHATEVERMAHDOODLE about the situation and perhaps you can change your whole school for the better. 

It’s just like… it sucks that you have to say something in the first place, you shouldn’t, this teacher should know better BUT… if you don’t say anything and no one else says anything, this teacher will forever think it is okay to talk that way and more and more students will be forever alienated. Which is not fair TO ANYONE. 

Kristin Says:

This is when it becomes really important for you to have an ally of some kind who works at your school. If your science teacher from two years ago is someone who you know you can trust, that is who you should speak with first. Think about who has shown you and your classmates the most respect over the years - perhaps the teacher who heads the school’s GSA (if you have one), perhaps the English teacher who included gay history in his coverage of civil rights, perhaps the art teacher who has always been warm and welcoming to all of his students.

If you have someone like that, ask them if you can talk to them after class or after school one day. Explain what is happening in your math class, and that it makes you feel extremely uncomfortable, but that you don’t want for the school-at-large to know that you are the one complaining, so you’d like to remain anonymous. They will be able to help you take the next steps to make sure that this teacher knows that he is offending students.

Here’s the thing you guys. Teachers can be the most incredible, influential, inspiring people. They can also be the most ignorant, damaging, juvenile people. Just because someone is twenty years older than you doesn’t mean that you aren’t smart enough to make a difference, and certainly doesn’t mean that you should have to sit idly by as they hurt others. You most certainly are not the only one being hurt by this.

If you don’t have an ally anywhere in your school, email us and we will see if there’s any way that we can help: info [at] everyoneisgay [dot] com

notesfrominsidethecloset:

Dear family,

I know you won’t accept me, but I’m gay. I never thought that a Christian could be gay, but it happened to me. You two are perfectly happy laughing at gay jokes or hanging out with gays, but when it comes to love, both of you cringe. A gay kiss on TV, and both of you turn away in disgust. A scene in The Birdcage, where a feminine gay man tries to act like a macho man, and both of you are laughing until your sides hurt. 

You both say that gays should control their emotions. I know for a fact that is impossible. If you really love someone, you want to be with them at all times. I don’t want to live alone. I don’t want to come home to a pet or two and not have someone in my life just because it’s not a woman. You will probably quote Bible passages at me, saying why I shouldn’t get a boyfriend. But I can’t do that. I can’t ignore my feelings and live alone. 

Sis, you found out about my first crush on a guy and flipped out. You tried to talk me out of it, saying that I couldn’t like a guy like that. But I did. You said you want to be in my wedding, but you don’t know there will be another man on the other side. If you find out, you probably won’t want to talk to me again. And if you do talk, it will probably be about breaking up with my boyfriend and living alone.

I’ve told a few of my friends. Every single one of them was accepting and supporting. They all love me for who I am. When it all started, they were there for me. They wanted to help see me through my rough time. I knew that you wouldn’t see my perspective. All you would be able to see was your only son, loving another guy. You would get hung up on how wrong it seems. To me, I was in heaven. Just being with them made me happy. I wanted to hold them and never let them go. 

Twice I had strong feelings for guys. Something more powerful than I had felt for any girl I liked. Even my only girlfriend. Sure, we were together, but we broke up. I never got the urge to call her, text her, or see her. The two guys? I wanted and needed to be with them. Neither of them felt the same. It drove me to tears when I finally realized I couldn’t be with them. 

You remember my crush on the popular girl? Remember I told her? We never made plans, but I didn’t feel sad. It just faded. Even my girlfriend, the feelings had started to fade over time. Both of my crushes on guys lasted three months each. Something I never expected.

This is me in the closet from all three of you. You won’t react well if this letter makes it to you, but I hope that when you do find out, you will accept and love me. I’m getting more comfortable every day. I didn’t choose this. I never chose to love a guy. It just happened. Try to see me as your son. Try to see me as your pride and joy. The closet door is locked. Please give me a chance to open it.

Love,

The only gay in the family

tyleroakley:

Dan Savage is so fucking badass… and the idiot kids who walk out during his talk are basically:

from HRC.org:


NOM launched a campaign against Starbucks this afternoon, apparently enraged that the company reflects the views of a majority of Americans in supporting marriage equality.
NOM is essentially asking its core base to intentionally harm the economic well-being and livelihood of Starbucks employees all over the world. Their logic for going after Starbucks is curious – companies whose technologies better our lives on a daily basis also support marriage equality.
Microsoft, for example, joined Starbucks in supporting marriage equality in Washington State. Apple came out against Proposition 8 in California. Is there no Microsoft software of any kind in NOM’s offices? Did Brian Brown, Maggie Gallagher, or any NOM staff refrain from buying iPhones because of Apple’s opposition to Prop 8?
Act now to show your support for Starbucks and take a stand against NOM’s bizarre campaign.
NOM makes the misleading claim that the majority of Americans and “virtually every consumer” define marriage as between one man and one woman, when in fact polling consistently shows that majorities of Americans support marriage equality. A 2011 Gallup poll showed that 53 percent of Americans support marriage equality. Other recent polls from ABC News/Washington Post, the Associated Press, and CNN/Opinion Research all show support for marriage equality above 50 percent. A recent New York Times/CBS News poll found 63 percent of Americans support legal recognition for gay and lesbian couples.
March 21, 2012, Dan Rafter
CATEGORY: Call It Out, NOM Exposed, Marriage, Workplace, Blog, National Organization for Marriage, Marriage & Relationships

from HRC.org:

NOM launched a campaign against Starbucks this afternoon, apparently enraged that the company reflects the views of a majority of Americans in supporting marriage equality.

NOM is essentially asking its core base to intentionally harm the economic well-being and livelihood of Starbucks employees all over the world. Their logic for going after Starbucks is curious – companies whose technologies better our lives on a daily basis also support marriage equality.

Microsoft, for example, joined Starbucks in supporting marriage equality in Washington State. Apple came out against Proposition 8 in California. Is there no Microsoft software of any kind in NOM’s offices? Did Brian Brown, Maggie Gallagher, or any NOM staff refrain from buying iPhones because of Apple’s opposition to Prop 8?

Act now to show your support for Starbucks and take a stand against NOM’s bizarre campaign.

NOM makes the misleading claim that the majority of Americans and “virtually every consumer” define marriage as between one man and one woman, when in fact polling consistently shows that majorities of Americans support marriage equality. A 2011 Gallup poll showed that 53 percent of Americans support marriage equality. Other recent polls from ABC News/Washington Post, the Associated Press, and CNN/Opinion Research all show support for marriage equality above 50 percent. A recent New York Times/CBS News poll found 63 percent of Americans support legal recognition for gay and lesbian couples.

March 21, 2012, Dan Rafter

CATEGORY: Call It Out, NOM Exposed, Marriage, Workplace, Blog, National Organization for Marriage, Marriage & Relationships